October, 2009
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Oct 09
It’s Broken, Already
Women are fixers. It’s part of our very nature to see if we can fix whatever may be broken. Accommodating women are serious fixers. It’s not that men aren’t capable or interested in fixing, too, but sometimes I think women have a tendency to try to fix when it can’t be fixed. Continue reading →
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Oct 09
Initiate Change
They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.
Andy Warhol
18
Oct 09
Narcissists as Manipulators
I was making banana bread today with a good recipe out of “The Joy of Cooking.” I use this cookbook at least once a week. It’s a favorite. Today, when I opened to the banana bread page, a note fell out of the cookbook. I’ve had this book for probably five years. I had forgotten there was a note inside. Continue reading →
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Oct 09
A Good Mother
The most important thing she’d learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.
Jill Churchill
15
Oct 09
When The Narcissist Has Kids
My life changed the day I gave birth to my first child. “So tell me something new,” you must be thinking. But if you are a narcissist, you can’t say that. Actually, if you are a narcissist, you don’t want to say that. Before having children, your life is confined to this nice, tidy boat. Sure, the boat can be tippy sometimes. Sometimes the boat can even take on water. Most of the time, if you are lucky, you float your boat, and watch the world from inside without too many disturbances. If you are really lucky, you have children and your boat capsizes. You end up swimming in the warm, crazy pond of life. Some days you can barely keep your head above water. Some days you float on your back and enjoy all that the pond has to offer. But you never leave the pond for the safety of the boat. And you don’t want to. The arrival of children may rock the narcissist’s boat, but it never capsizes. Narcissists control their boats very well. They will experience inconveniences periodically, but basically, their boat remains intact. Continue reading →
12
Oct 09
Advice
When a man comes to me for advice, I find out the kind of advice he wants, and I give it to him.
Josh Billings
12
Oct 09
The World’s Best Boss
This story dates back to when I was still married and working for Mark. That means it pre-dates my education in narcissism. That also means that I had no explanation for why he would undertake such a ruse. Continue reading →
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Oct 09
True Riches
A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty.
Author Unknown
11
Oct 09
A Boy Needs a Dad
A couple mornings ago we were on our way to school. We got held up in traffic by a school bus coming our direction. The bus driver had his Stop sign out, so we waited for the young passenger to get on board. We were treated to a sweet scene when a dad walked his little girl to the bus. He checked that her coat was zipped up all the way, tugged her hood down to protect her from the chill, adjusted her backpack and planted a kiss on her tiny pink cheek. After she got on the bus, he continued to wait until the bus took off, so he could wave. The bus folded in it’s sign, and we were on our way. Neither one of us mentioned anything about the dad and his daughter. Continue reading →
