What if we quit wanting? What if we accepted what was in front us? What if we quit wanting things to be different? What if we set out to change what wasn’t working, and then learned to accept what is just fine?
What if we quit wanting to change our partner, our children, our jobs, our house, our neighbors, and our co-workers?
What if we made the best of what we had, instead of opting for what might be better?
What if we quit wanting better or best, and came to love what might very well be quite good enough?
Can that be done if you are in a relationship with a Narcissist?
How do you make the best of a situation where you continually fail to measure up?
How about we make the best of a livable situation, and make the healthy choice to move on, if the situation is not healthy?
What if we quit wanting it to be better, when we know it won’t change?
- What if we quit wanting our son to be a wrestler, and encouraged his desire to be on the debate team?
- What if we quit wanting our daughter to be a ballerina and supported her interest in playing soccer?
- What if we quit wanting the school to raise our kids, and actually stepped up to the plate to raise them ourselves?
- What if we quit wanting to be given that raise at work, and took on that extra project, instead?
- What if we quit wanting our government to take care of us?
- What if we quit wanting our relationship to be what it was never going to be, and worked on making it the best it could be?
- What if we quit wanting that narcissist in our life to care, and actually came to terms with the fact that he’s not capable of caring, and we then made the decision to move on?
- What if we quit wanting to look like the thin girls without having to do anything about it?
- What if we quit wanting to look/be/act like other than what we are?
- What if we quit wanting to have the big, gorgeous house and decided we already lived in the perfect home?
- What if we quit wanting to drive the big, fancy SUV, when the reliable car we already have is paid for?
- What if we quit wanting to buy that 37th pair of new shoes, when 15 pairs are more than enough?
- What if we quit wanting our parent to be sympathetic, understanding and interested, and accepted the fact that he/she might be doing the best that he/she can?
- What if we quit wanting our dog to stop shedding and loved him anyway, and let him sit on the furniture?
- What if we quit wanting to have the perfect Thanksgiving Dinner, and realized that everyone would still love us anyway – excepting, of course, that narcissistic spouse?
The time of year tells us we should be taking stock of all that we should be thankful for.
What if we quit wanting, and started accepting and making the best of what we have?
If what we have isn’t working, what if we made the conscious choice to do something about that, instead of passively waiting and hoping for better?
What if we were thankful for all that is going right, and actually did something about what isn’t going right — instead of just wanting it to be right?
Tags: divorce, life, narcissism, narcissist behavior, NPD, proactive, survive
Y’know, if you can really, really, really get to that place of ‘quit wanting’ it is there that you truly find peace.
And that makes EVERYTHING beautiful!
You probably won’t even notice narcissists anymore.
Totally enjoying your blog. Thanks for putting yourself out there!