Comments on: No One Can Cut Your Shadow In Half http://survivingnarcissism.com/2010/03/01/no-one-can-cut-your-shadow-in-half/ by Jesse Blayne Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:51:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Annie http://survivingnarcissism.com/2010/03/01/no-one-can-cut-your-shadow-in-half/comment-page-1/#comment-301 Annie Tue, 02 Mar 2010 20:14:30 +0000 http://survivingnarcissism.com/?p=1317#comment-301 Tears are flowing... Thank you... Tears are flowing… Thank you…

]]> By: Jesse http://survivingnarcissism.com/2010/03/01/no-one-can-cut-your-shadow-in-half/comment-page-1/#comment-298 Jesse Tue, 02 Mar 2010 14:02:07 +0000 http://survivingnarcissism.com/?p=1317#comment-298 Annie, I remember when you told me that you thought I was brave for leaving. I said you are more brave for staying. You are still so brave. I'm still holding on to the net ... Annie,

I remember when you told me that you thought I was brave for leaving. I said you are more brave for staying. You are still so brave. I’m still holding on to the net …

]]> By: Annie http://survivingnarcissism.com/2010/03/01/no-one-can-cut-your-shadow-in-half/comment-page-1/#comment-297 Annie Tue, 02 Mar 2010 04:27:03 +0000 http://survivingnarcissism.com/?p=1317#comment-297 I've been on antidepressants for years, knew I needed something when I had a real feeling to fly off my Aunt's 8th level condo deck, not kidding... Had an almost giddy feeling of, 'Go ahead, go for it', you know the little devil on the shoulder saying something? Been on them for that, for anxiety, and I guess for trying to be numb for what was going on here. But I am glad to announce... drum roll please.... I am no longer on them. Decided that it was pretty sick (?) to have to be on them to be married.. one step at a time huh? One step... I’ve been on antidepressants for years, knew I needed something when I had a real feeling to fly off my Aunt’s 8th level condo deck, not kidding… Had an almost giddy feeling of, ‘Go ahead, go for it’, you know the little devil on the shoulder saying something? Been on them for that, for anxiety, and I guess for trying to be numb for what was going on here. But I am glad to announce… drum roll please…. I am no longer on them. Decided that it was pretty sick (?) to have to be on them to be married.. one step at a time huh? One step…

]]> By: Jesse http://survivingnarcissism.com/2010/03/01/no-one-can-cut-your-shadow-in-half/comment-page-1/#comment-296 Jesse Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:45:32 +0000 http://survivingnarcissism.com/?p=1317#comment-296 For about 6-8 months before I left Mark, I had descriptive, exhausting, almost violent dreams. I would attempt to discuss the dreams with him, but he grew weary listening. I was grasping at straws, looking for the meaning of the dreams. (Can't blame him for being bored with hearing about the dreams. Dreams are pretty personal, and only relevant to the dreamer.) He said I was depressed. He said I should get a prescription. I was afraid to go to bed at night, never knowing what new, awful dreams I might have. It has been a long time since I have had a really scary dream - almost four years now. I'm not depressed, and I'm not on any kind of prescription. For about 6-8 months before I left Mark, I had descriptive, exhausting, almost violent dreams. I would attempt to discuss the dreams with him, but he grew weary listening. I was grasping at straws, looking for the meaning of the dreams. (Can’t blame him for being bored with hearing about the dreams. Dreams are pretty personal, and only relevant to the dreamer.) He said I was depressed. He said I should get a prescription. I was afraid to go to bed at night, never knowing what new, awful dreams I might have. It has been a long time since I have had a really scary dream – almost four years now. I’m not depressed, and I’m not on any kind of prescription.

]]> By: Annie http://survivingnarcissism.com/2010/03/01/no-one-can-cut-your-shadow-in-half/comment-page-1/#comment-295 Annie Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:17:23 +0000 http://survivingnarcissism.com/?p=1317#comment-295 Normal days I wake up tired-er than I went to bed, my dreams, or terrors are so vivid, so real, so unpredictable, I run, I fight, I spit (yep), I cry like I have never cried before, I ache. They are so real. Are they the life I am trying to escape from? Are my dreams, my soul trying to be let free? You have a way of bringing this stuff to the light my dear... Thank you from the bottom of my heart... Normal days I wake up tired-er than I went to bed, my dreams, or terrors are so vivid, so real, so unpredictable, I run, I fight, I spit (yep), I cry like I have never cried before, I ache. They are so real. Are they the life I am trying to escape from? Are my dreams, my soul trying to be let free?
You have a way of bringing this stuff to the light my dear… Thank you from the bottom of my heart…

]]> By: Jesse http://survivingnarcissism.com/2010/03/01/no-one-can-cut-your-shadow-in-half/comment-page-1/#comment-292 Jesse Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:48:26 +0000 http://survivingnarcissism.com/?p=1317#comment-292 and how blessed was Amos that you took the time to sit across from him and listen to him. and how blessed was Amos that you took the time to sit across from him and listen to him.

]]> By: Pat http://survivingnarcissism.com/2010/03/01/no-one-can-cut-your-shadow-in-half/comment-page-1/#comment-291 Pat Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:45:57 +0000 http://survivingnarcissism.com/?p=1317#comment-291 Wow! The content of kids' dreams - or fantasies - can be amazing. The most memorable of all my kids' was Amos's fantasy when he returned from a visit to his "brown mommy." He was about 4. The social worker brought him back to our house much later than we'd expected. We had finished dinner. I warmed up a plate for him and was sitting at the table keeping him company as he ate. He was distressed, but I couldn't tell why. Finally, he said, "The next time I go to see my brown mommy, I will be all grown up, and I will come back in a car. But you will see me little, and I will sit on your lap." I know he was telling me he wanted control over the situation. He didn't want other people deciding when he would see his brown mommy and when he would see his pink mommy (me). But he still wanted to be a little boy who would be loved and treated like a 4-year-old, wherever he went. It gave me shivers when he said it, and it still does today. Wow! The content of kids’ dreams – or fantasies – can be amazing. The most memorable of all my kids’ was Amos’s fantasy when he returned from a visit to his “brown mommy.” He was about 4. The social worker brought him back to our house much later than we’d expected. We had finished dinner. I warmed up a plate for him and was sitting at the table keeping him company as he ate. He was distressed, but I couldn’t tell why. Finally, he said, “The next time I go to see my brown mommy, I will be all grown up, and I will come back in a car. But you will see me little, and I will sit on your lap.” I know he was telling me he wanted control over the situation. He didn’t want other people deciding when he would see his brown mommy and when he would see his pink mommy (me). But he still wanted to be a little boy who would be loved and treated like a 4-year-old, wherever he went. It gave me shivers when he said it, and it still does today.

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