Comments on: Another One Last Try

By: Jesse

Jesse — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 00:40:50 +0000

Oh goody! Another inner tube.

Love you, and yours, too. :)

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 19:43:41 +0000

I’ve got milk & cookies for the kiddos & wine for the mommy…Anytime you’re up for it K & I would love to hang!! Love you

By: Jesse

Jesse — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 13:45:55 +0000

Good morning Phyllis,

Thanks for writing and encouraging the three of us. We’d love to come for cookies. What kind? :) I’m sure we’ll be fine. We always seem to be. I have a strong sense that we are close to the end of putting up with this. Not because of any intestinal fortitude on my part, but because my kids are older, and less inclined to put up with him. Whew!

How about you start writing that book. I’d buy one!

p.s. It’s not about the grammar, it’s about the message. Love you.

By: phyllis

phyllis — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 04:31:42 +0000

Sorry about the grammar mistakes. I should proof-read my comments before sending them. Oh well. I guess it doesn’t matter too much. But you matter. And the kids.

By: phyllis

phyllis — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 04:27:20 +0000

I care about you and the kids. Wish I could help. Just know that there are many of us out here, and we truly sympathize, empathize, etc. Life is so dang hard. Never give up. This too shall pass. I should write a book — Phyllis’ Favorite Cliches. In the meantime, you are definitely in my thoughts. Too bad that I don’t live near you — I would have you over for a big cup of coffee. And milk and cookies for the kids (and me!) We — all of us — care very much. Very Very much.

By: Jesse

Jesse — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 03:39:49 +0000

Thanks, Donna. I’ll definitely check out the book.

By: Donna

Donna — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 02:44:45 +0000

I’ve been hesitating to mention this, but it seems like this is the time. There is a book out there that talks about evil people, but it sounds like narcissism to me. (It does mention it, but mostly talks about evil.)

Evil is not where I’m at, but the stories in the book are shocking and sickening. It’s definitely a Christian based perspective, and the book is scholarly in the information it gives, but I think you will understand that you need to stay away from these people after reading this book.

Its title is “People of the Lie” by M. Scott Peck.

By: Jesse

Jesse — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 23:27:19 +0000

Di,
Thanks for writing. I think I hear the desperation in you. I gotta tell ya, I don’t know how to know for sure. My ex was never officially diagnosed. I had a counselor tell me that my ex most likely was a narcissist. But there isn’t a real good chance of getting a narcissist to go to anyone for any kind of testing for an actual diagnosis. They think they don’t have a problem, so it’s pointless.

I just know that learning all I could about NPD is what has helped me figure out how to navigate this bizarre relationship. And as you can see, we still fall into the trap of hoping that one day he will see that his kids are fabulous, and love them for who they are.

By: di

di — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 23:12:12 +0000

wow, i’m just trying to understand if i live with a narcissist , i’m always in hope but with no empathy towards me and my children’s feelings. i’m just wondering after 13 years whether to stay under the tree or grow a seed somewhere else and let us blossom somewhere else………how do you know for definite they are? it’s taking over my bloody life!!!!!!!!!!!!

By: Jesse

Jesse — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 15:36:23 +0000

I’ll look at options once I can calmly think of something other than a chainsaw.