Survivor Encouragement or ‘You Go Girl’

Yesterday I received an email from Phyllis.  She’s facing a difficult weekend.  This would be a wonderful time to send a bunch of good words her way.  She is not yet divorced, but her husband has been living in a different town.  Today he is due to come by her house.  I can hear apprehension in her email.

If you’ve been reading this blog, you have read a bit about Phyllis.  She is an absolute dear, and a brave woman.  Her Independence Day is April 5th – the one year anniversary of leaving her narcissistic husband.  It has not been easy.  She has doubted her decision many times.

Phyllis has a marvelous sense of humor, so if mushy isn’t your thing, send her a funny quote or a joke.  If you’ve never commented before, this is a great time to do so.  Send some good words to Phyllis.  You’ll bolster her on this difficult journey, and you’ll see how sending kind words to someone else ends up making you feel better, too.

Phyllis has a son and a daughter who are a tremendous support for her.  But, this weekend she could use all the encouragement she can get.  Please think about sending a couple kind words to Phyllis, in the comment section below.


Phyllis, Jenny wanted me to tell you that she says, “YOU GO GIRL!”

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  1. Phyllis,
    Hang in there, you have made the break, don’t let HIM break you. Your year of freedom from his ‘ways’ have made you strong.
    I’ll be thinking about you.

  2. Hi Phyllis,

    Whether you’re religious or not, there’s real significance to the fact that this Easter weekend (actually Monday) is the first anniversary of your “new life.” You’ve been resurrected from the death of your married life, and you can go on forever leaving the ugliness behind you.

    I don’t know why your husband is there this weekend, but, carrying this analogy further, if he’s like Thomas who encountered the resurrected Jesus, he may doubt that you’re still alive. Your wounds may not be physical, but, if you haven’t already, I hope you let him know how he’s hurt you. I’m sure it’ll run off his N back like water off a duck. But it’ll do you some good.

    Be strong, and know that you have many friends thinking of you this weekend.

    I love you, my phantom, internet friend,


  3. Thank you with all my heart for your very very kind words. I love you all. More than I can say.

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