This’ll be fun.
What if you planned your life like you would plan the ultimate party?
Wait…. don’t tell me you hate planning parties. That’s probably because you think that you have to invite certain people, serve particular foods and drinks, provide a sparkling evening that will please everyone and clean up the mess when it’s over.
This party is different. This party is BYB – Bring Your Best. Whoever gets an invite brings only their best qualities.
This party is a metaphor for your life.
The List of Invitees
Now sit back and envision how you’d like to feel at this “party”.
Maybe you want the feel of Smooth Jazz, cigarettes and dim lights. You might be more B 52s, big hair and drinks with umbrellas. What about Patsy Cline, a keg and a barn dance?
The point is, this is your party.
You are planning the
party life you want.
It’s not about exotic cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, and a rockin’ playlist, even though all those things will help set the mood.
It’s about how you want to feel and the list of people who get you closer to feeling that way.
Do you want to invite those who generate conversation or those who spew gossip?
Do you want to invite those who could find a way to bitch about the sun setting on a quaint backyard and the laughter of children, or do you want to invite those who lift you up and infuse your life with energy.
This is your party. You don’t have to invite anyone who brings you down, unless you like that kind of thing.
Maybe you are ready to ditch the guest list you’ve been working with for years. Maybe it’s time to invite some new friends who have your same goals - folks who thrive on growth, positivity and change.
But, hey, it’s your party. Maybe you like hanging with the old guest list full of naysayers, doubters and those who can’t find it in themselves to move on.
Sending the Invites
You’ve narrowed down your list and it’s time to send the invites. It isn’t necessary to stand on a rooftop and announce to the whole world that you’re throwing a celebration only to have to tell the world that most of them aren’t invited.
This is a classy event.
There’s no need to hurt the feelings of those who aren’t invited.
Chances are they are throwing their own bash and you aren’t on their list either.
Every good party has crashers. Your party will have crashers, too. Greet them at the door with a smile. Hand them a piece of cake, and tell them you’d be happy to invite them in when they make the choice to come back with their best.
Send them on their way and wish them well.
DO NOT LET THEM IN.
This is your party.
Revel in the party you’ve created. Soak up the positive energy, or negative energy, if that’s your thing. Count your blessings and thank your friends for bringing their best.
Notice how the best in each enhances the best of the others.
Isn’t that cool?
Pour yourself a drink and toast to those you have been blessed to know.
Raise a glass to yourself, too.
If you keep it simple, the cleanup is easy. Offer only a few choices in drinks and munchies. Keep the decorations to a minimum. It’s not about the food and party hats, it’s about the people.
It’s your life. Who do you want to invite?