Merry Christmas From Your Narcissistic Dad

merry christmas from your narcissistic dad“Dad, when do you want to get together for Christmas?  Does Christmas afternoon work for you?”

“Well, I’m leaving town Christmas morning.  I have that whole next week off.  I’m sure your brother just wants to do a quick visit where I bring presents and we only chat for an hour, but I’d like it to be a longer visit.  When are you coming to town.”

“We’ll be in town on Christmas Day and most of the week after.”

“That doesn’t work for me.”

 

She gets off the phone and shares the details of her conversation with us.  High-fives ensue.   They both are relieved at not having to waste an afternoon trying to make conversation or fake interest.  There won’t be any waiting for a confirmation text that never arrives.

She says, “I don’t even want presents from him.”

He says, “I bet he’s going to be skiing that whole week after Christmas.”  And then, “Great! Guess I’ll save my money and skip getting him a gift.  Sweet!”

 

I am left wondering how it’s ever okay for a parent to make Christmas plans that don’t include his kids  And then I wonder, maybe this is some of that Christmas Magic that I’ve heard so much about.

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5 comments

  1. What a great gift! ;O)

  2. Jesse,

    It seems to me that in dealing with a narcissist blessings come in an upside-down way. What would seem to be a sadness to those lucky enough not to have a N for a spouse or parent is often a relief or blessing to those not so lucky. I think those who survive life after a N have a deep and profound appreciation for peace. There is the upside-down gift. : )

    I hope you have a magical, peaceful, and beautiful Christmas/New Year!!

    Warms hugs and wishes to all,
    Lynn

  3. Yes! Christmas magic! Hope you all have had a lovely holiday season. xx

  4. Lynn

    Yes, indeed. Those who have dealt with narcissism become experts at finding silver linings. Those silver linings are out there. :)

  5. Thank you, Zaira.

    Wishing you and yours all kinds of peace and stability in this new year.

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