Have you ever stood outside a narcissist’s man cave yelling at him that it’s time he helped with the laundry and took a turn at entertaining the kids, only to be told that that is woman’s work?
Have you stood in front of a narcissist, hands on your hips, telling him that you will no longer be ignored and that it’s time that your dreams were made a priority, too, only to hear him say, “But if you focus on my dreams, we’ll both be happy.”
Have you written the letter that says, “I’m done! I will not live like this anymore! For my sake, and for the good of this family, things have to change around this place,” and he responds with, “Geez, settle down. Did you forget to eat breakfast again?”
Has screaming, yelling and demanding attention ever worked with a narcissist?
Have you read the research that clearly states that politicians need a healthy dose of narcissism to make it in the political arena?
We will not get equality by yelling at them. We won’t even get their attention.
As we encourage each other to stand in the cold outside their fortresses, trying to prove that we matter, they are sitting behind their too-expensive mahogany desks laughing at us while they pass more legislation that furthers their agenda.
Instead, focus on what you can do in your own backyard. Raise your kids to understand that no gender is better than another and that no race is better than another. Show your kids that while things may never be fair, we can work together to get closer to fair. Continue reaching out to your neighbors, helping when and where needed.
Screaming and yelling has never worked in my house. Quiet persistence and determination always proves successful over the long haul.
Real, lasting change takes time and it happens, first, in our own homes.