The Turning Point

You know how they say everything happens in its own time for a reason.

This morning I woke like any other morning.  My back was sore.  That’s not new.  I made good coffee, also not new.

I checked the emails and the sites and the comments.  I read the smattering of news that I can stomach.  I made another cup of coffee and greeted Jen and Will.

I considered finishing the 700 word post I’d written yesterday, but opted to do some stretches and listen to Esther Hicks, instead.  I found a Hicks tape that talked about bodily pain, resistance, and dwelling on stuff instead of focusing on where I’m heading.  I wondered if the post I’d written yesterday had anything to do with the increased pain in my back.


And then it hit me!


I’m done writing about narcissism.  I’m so done.


That decision has been in the making, but it also seemed to come out of nowhere.  I know you know what I mean.


I’m not closing down this blog.

I’m leaving it here as an example of how to navigate all the bullshit that comes with narcissism.

I will answer comments and emails and letters.  I plan on maintaining these amazing relationships that were formed within the walls of this blog.  I wouldn’t be who I am without my connections with you.

I can’t thank you enough.

But it’s time to move on, really move on.

I’ll be bringing Hank and the Spirit Guides with me.  I have no choice.  They still have a lot to say.

I’ll still be on Twitter.

The kids know.  They are excited.  They wanted to make sure I’d still be writing.  I told them, “Yes! Of course I’ll be writing, just not about narcissism.”  They are good with that.


I’ll let you know where the other site is, in case you want to keep in touch.  Or maybe this is where our paths take off in different directions.  If so, I’ll miss you, and I wish you well.


Oh, and my back already feels so much better with this decision.


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  1. Wow! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you Jesse for walking alongside me during some of the darkest years of my life and for allowing me to see life is still full of hope and humor–even if dark humor at times. I am ever grateful for you and your prose!! I’ll keep reading and am excited to see what is next for you! I love you dear friend.

  2. Yes, I know what you mean.

    Very excited for you & best journey to you. Glad a part of your journey was a blog here. Happy trails to you.

  3. Go get ’em girl!!

  4. Lynn,

    I love you, friend. So grateful we met through this blog. That’s the silver lining thing, isn’t it. :)

  5. Kay,

    Thank you! I hope to still chat with you along this new fork in the road. :)

  6. Mo,

    Thanks for being here!

  7. Congratulations! I completely understand your desire to move on with life. And I’m glad you’re keeping the posts up. They were tremendously helpful to me, and I’m sure they will be for others embarking on their own journey.

  8. Dear Jesse,

    there was one comment from you that I still want to reply to, and I will start looking for it in a minute. But before, I would like to thank you for the great work you have done with this blog! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences here! You have helped me so much in dealing with my own memories of growing up with a narcissistic father. We have never met and probably will never meet, but it is so comforting to know that you, Will and Jen are out there, somewhere.
    Best of luck in all of your future endeavors!

  9. I have been lurking on your site for years now, so I feel it’s necessary now to say thank you. Especially thank you for writing “The Well-Versed Child of a Narcissist.” I have read it countless times, every word rings true to me.

  10. Hi M,

    Thanks for saying so, and for contributing to this site. I hope to see you in my new place. :)

  11. Thanks Jul!

    I like feeling like we’ve already met, even if we wouldn’t recognize each other. The three of us will be around. I’ll let you know where to find us next.

  12. Melissa,

    Hello! Thanks for writing. This blog was written for folks like you. I’m glad you found it useful.

    Take good care!!


  13. I am so late… but am sooo happy for you! It’s time to give all narcissism the big FU! I hope the past couple of weeks has eased your shoulders and lightened your step. Much love and hope to see you soon!

  14. Z,

    One day …. one day we will meet. And then we will only briefly talk of narcissism, but we will delve into astrology and energy and healing and essential oils and the process of aging with grace and the miracle of children and the power in thriving.

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