A wise woman once said, “narcissists suck.” I’ve spent some time on her blog. It’s a deep, dark, cavernous hole of information. I would caution you to be careful before spending much time there. You may learn more than you really want to know.
Tonight I am really thinking that narcissists suck. I have a little girl who hasn’t been feeling well. She will be fine. But for right now, she is depleted. She wants to cry and she can’t. She actually told me that she, “wants to let the tears out, but she can’t.” When I ask her why she can’t cry, she explains that she’s been practicing not crying in front of her dad. She doesn’t want to cry in front of him because he treats her like a baby. So now she thinks she’s forgotten how to cry.
In the meantime, Mark has not come by to check on Jenny. You see, he skied on Wednesday and Friday. And he’s leaving town after work tomorrow for a convention in the sunny Napa Valley. He can’t afford to come by and check on his daughter because he doesn’t have time, and because he wouldn’t want to risk catching her bug before he leaves town. (So how about calling to check on her?)
Narcissists suck.
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I stand corrected. He just now called. And I can hear my daughter using her “I’ll-pretend-I-feel-good voice.” She is not going to let him know that she doesn’t feel well. That way he can’t treat her like a baby.
Tags: all about me, child of narcissist, divorce, life, narcissism, narcissist behavior, narcissistic behavior, NPD
I’ve been sick this week, feeling wimpy, sick. He has skied twice this week, gotten drunk twice this week, he headed up to the hill again today to conquer the race run, so he can try and win the race tomorrow. I’ve cleaned, cooked, laundry, etc. The other night, with his feet up, I cooking, he wondered if he was going to ‘catch’ my cold, I told him he could do the cooking so I wouldn’t contaminate him, and he said, “That’s ok, just be sure to wash up really well so I don’t get the germs…”
Are these guys twins??
Jenny is learning already to emotionally distance herself from him, isn’t she? It’s a self-preservation technique. She’s a strong little kid. She just needs to learn that, although it’s not in her best interest to cry in front of her dad, it IS in her best interest to be able to cry other times. I know you’re already all over that.