After reading yesterday’s post, my aunt invited us for a summer bright spot. Instead of serving coffee and biscotti, we met for a picnic lunch at the park. We sat in the grass under the shade of a huge pine tree, eating fries and burgers from Dairy Queen.
On the way to her house, I thought of how I’d tell her of the wolves that had been knocking at my door.
I’d give her the details.
I’d get her take on things.
I’d vent (a little) and spew.
I’d feel better.
It’d be a counseling session in the sun at the park.
But before my car pulled up to her house, I heard this voice say, “You know what she’s going to tell you. She’s going to say, ‘If a wolf comes to your door, don’t let him in.’ You don’t need someone to tell you that. Just don’t open the damn door.”
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It took me awhile, but I finally identified the Big Bad Wolf. I’ve noticed they travel in packs. All my schooling in narcissism as taught me how to pick out a narcissist. Thing is, these narcissistic wolves hide behind charming facades. No matter how experienced I might be, I still find myself getting caught in one of their traps.
Narcissists are skilled at ‘making nice’. It seems I am skilled at wanting to believe that they are inherently kind, considerate and compassionate, even though they continue to show me that they are not. Narcissistic wolves prey on the those of us who want desperately to believe in the inherent goodness of others.
Tags: child of narcissist, life, narcissism, narcissist behavior, narcissistic behavior, NPD, proactive, survive
If someone asked you how to identify the wolves at their door, what would you tell them? You already know the answers.
It’s definitely a confidence thing. The wolves try to convince me that they are superior to me. When my confidence is low, I believe them.
Ultimately, I am seeing that the wolves have even less confidence than I do. They desperately try to get me to see their way, in an effort to bolster their position and validate who they are.
Bingo
Can I send Michael over with the shotgun to take care of those wolves?!
Absolutely!
Please have Michael pack a second shotgun for Will.
And as far as I can tell, we won’t be running out of wolves any time soon.
How soon will you want Michael back home?
Might be tough to get those shotguns through customs! Just wish I could offer some real help. Love you!
Yes, there is the customs thing. dang.
Sending love is a better approach, and you’ve got that covered.
Love you, too.