Posts Tagged: proactive
26
Aug 09
Giving Lightness
Give lightness to others. Let everyone know you’re happy today, cheerful, harmless, and un-crabby. Send clear signals that people can relax.
Author unknown
25
Aug 09
Expectations and Enlightenment
Enlightened people never dwell on what they don’t want, what other people expect of them, or what always has been.
Author unknown
23
Aug 09
The Narcissist As Protector
Last night I was reading in bed. Reading in bed was frowned upon when I was married. Bedtime was meant for one thing and one thing only – service. We didn’t have a T.V. in our bedroom for the same reason.
Now, in my happy little sanctuary, I often read and watch T.V. in bed at the same time – a sweet, simple pleasure. I was reading a wonderful novel by Elizabeth Berg.
Recently, my 90 year old grandmother was visiting. We were sitting around the table talking about books. She asked what I’d been reading. When I told her mostly self-help books, she rolled her eyes and said, “You ought to read something by Elizabeth Berg.” Guess there’s not much point in self-help books when you’re 90.
Elizabeth Berg is the kind of author that makes you feel like you are sitting down for coffee and stories with an old friend.
Back to last night – I was engrossed in the reading and I saw something scurry across my bedroom carpet and head under my bed. It was a ridiculously large spider – so big, in fact, that it had to duck it’s head to get under the bed. I threw my book at it. That didn’t work. I grabbed the broom to try and get at it. Nothing. Continue reading →
15
Aug 09
Real Freedom
There are two good things in life; freedom of thought and freedom of action.
William Somerset Maugham
14
Aug 09
Inner Peace
In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.
Albert Camus
12
Aug 09
Our True Life Awaits
We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.
Joseph Campbell
12
Aug 09
Leaving
I didn’t know that I was married to a Narcissist when I decided to leave. I wish I could tell you what the last straw was. When I think back to that sunny Saturday in July, I try to find where my head was. It’s not like I had gone to bed the night before, with a plan. I have never been the kind of person to leave and come back, break up and get back together. It feels like crossing a bridge. Once I’ve crossed the bridge, I don’t go back.
On that morning, I had reached a wall or a limit. I grabbed three boxes, and handed each kid a box, keeping one for my self. I told them to put their most favorite things in their box. I told them that we wouldn’t be staying at this house anymore. I made a game out of it – no long faces, no lengthy explanations.
We were going on an adventure.
He walked in while we were packing and asked what we were doing. I explained that we were packing boxes for moving. Without hesitation he asked, “Do you want me to get the truck to help you with the boxes?”
(Weeks later I found the courage to tell him that I had always hoped I had the kind of marriage where, if I decided to leave, my partner might actually attempt to come after me. I know that contradicts the “crossing the bridge” explanation. It’s not that I would have actually stayed. But I really thought/hoped I might have been asked to stay; that this person might have cared enough to try to get me to stay.) Continue reading →
11
Aug 09
Free Your Self
Whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free … your true self comes out.
Tina Turner
9
Aug 09
Power
When you live in reaction, you give your power away.
Then you get to experience what you gave your power to. N. Smith
Then you get to experience what you gave your power to. N. Smith
