Through tears he said, “I don’t wanna go. I’m tired. Do we have to? Do we have to do a dad visit?”
I said, “I’m sorry, Honey. I know. You are tired, but that’s not a good enough excuse to skip out on a visit. You can be tired at dad’s house, too.”
He said, “I know that, but it’s not the same. It’s not comfortable there.”
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Later, when sorting through Tech Decks and old Golf Magazines, picking up air soft ammo and discussing the logic behind owning seven backpacks, we found the wallet he lost last Thanksgiving.
“Mom! Can you believe it? There are gift cards in there, too. I thought I’d never see that wallet again!”
I said, “You lead a charmed life, Cowboy. Do you see that?”
He said, “I know, mom. I do lead a charmed life. Even if I have to go to dad’s today, I still have it pretty good.”
He walked out of the room to show Jen the found wallet.
A bit later he came back in and said, “I get it, mom. The good is that much better because of the bad.”
Tags: child of narcissist, divorce, love, narcissism, narcissist behavior, narcissistic behavior, NPD, Parenting
OMG…your children are amazing!
Is it too late to adopt me?
;)
Donna,
I’d adopt you in a heartbeat. But…. you ought to know…. I can get cranky, I won’t always fix your favorite foods, once in a blue moon I’ll make you clean your room, and I’ll insist on tucking you in every night.
p.s. I think all children are amazing, but some need a little help in letting their spirit shine.
Yes, they ARE all amazing. And they say the most amazing things. We just have to listen when they’re saying them.
But Will and Jen are uber amazing (O:
Pat,
Thank you – very much – for that.
That made me cry……….. Love your kids and you!
Annie,
I feel the same for you and yours.
Aww, he’s so smart and wise! You’re doing a great job teaching and raising him.
Meredith,
Thank you. There aren’t many things better than being told you do a good job as a parent. ;)
what a sweetheart :) Love that positive attitude! We are Tech deck crazy ’round here, too.
hugs
Our kids are gifts beyond measure!!! Mine keep me going in many ways, but, most of all, they are the gifts given to me in spite of a very hard and painful marriage.
Seeing them, reminds me over and over that there is beauty out of pain–and goodness always comes out ahead.
God bless all of our kids who have to manage a N as a parent. Love to all of you!
I hope it is okay to post this song on the blog. I hope it encourages all of you!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4CbEotFOnP0
Lynn,
Our children make all this SO worth it!
Thanks for posting that song – truly inspirational. I could relate. ;)