I tell them to examine how they feel when they are with someone. If the energy feels good, pursue that relationship. If you feel icky or drained, re-think whether you want to spend time with that person.
They see me foster relationships that leave me depleted.
I say, “It is up to you to make yourself a priority. Make time in the day for your passions – for time to read or think or just be.”
They see me crash at the end of a day. They hear me complain that I didn’t have time to read or work on a project.
I tell them that they are in charge of where they will go and that they should plan accordingly.
They see me succumb to the whims of others and put my plans on the back burner.
I tell them to avoid negative talk, gossip or pointless chatter. “It doesn’t feel good,” I say. “It isn’t productive,” I say.
They hear me indulge in gossip while in the company of others.
I tell them, “Believe in yourself!” I tell them nothing can stop them. I tell them they are capable of so many wonderful things.
They hear my critical self-talk. They hear me doubt myself and my writing.
I tell them to go out in the fresh air, let the sun warm their bones, feel their blood move as they pump their legs.
They see me parked on the couch, too tired to move.
I say, “When you are warn out, it’s good to be kind to yourself.” “Eat some comfort food,” I say. “Grab your cat and crawl under a blanket.” “Hide from the world for awhile,” I say.
They will see me grab their cat and crawl under a blanket.
This morning, Pinterest served a wake-up-call with my coffee.