17
Jul 15

On Feeling Sorry for the Narcissist

geranium blossomsShe couldn’t help herself, she felt sorry for him.  She knew the details of his childhood.  She knew he’d been all but abandoned when he most needed caregivers.  Each and every time she looked at him, she could see that hurt little boy who longed to be acknowledged, loved and cared for. Continue reading →


14
Jul 15

The INFJ and the Narcissist – Part 11

toy logging truckToddlers are not easy to control.  They are messy, busy, loud and curious.  If the narcissist expects a toddler to be some sort of positive reflection of the image he’s trying to portray, he’ll have his work cut out for him. Continue reading →


03
Jul 15

Under the Rug

under the rugShe grew up watching her mom sweep everything under the rug.  Her mom grew up watching her mom sweep everything under the rug.  It was what they did.  Their hurts, disappointments, frustrations and expectations all went under the rug. Continue reading →


28
Jun 15

The Wake Left by the Controller

the controllerControllers aren’t always* aware that their actions leave lasting scars on those they are controlling.  The controller is so focused on his desperate attempts at micromanaging his universe that he can’t see the destruction left in his wake. Continue reading →


15
Jun 15

Uncharted Territory

uncharted territoryWhen Hank smiles, his eyes crease, filling the white crows feet created by off hours spent on the river in the sun. “Nice to see you, Janna. What’ll you have?” Continue reading →


04
Jun 15

School’s Out!

school's outSchool’s out for summer!  The bell rang at 10:48 this morning. Continue reading →


28
May 15

When to Accommodate

Margaret's dish towel“Margaret?” Continue reading →


22
May 15

On Being Seen

on being seenI’ll bet you aren’t being seen.  I’ll go so far as to say that you probably don’t even know that you aren’t being seen. Continue reading →


13
May 15

How to Say “No”

If every shell represented a no ...“So why don’t you just say “no”?” Continue reading →


08
May 15

On Reversing the Damage Done by a Narcissist

tools for creatingUnderneath her best face is the face that tried to smile through the belittling comments, the dismissals and the personal attacks. Continue reading →